I love being Poly. This life suits me. There have been times, however, that it has been a bit confusing sometimes in a good way, sometimes not, but always it’s a learning experience. Let me tell you a few of them over a series of posts.
Texting the Wrong Person
Benjamin sends me a text- in German. Clearly this text is not for me. I translate it anyway! (By the way Google Translate sucks for German/English/German translation!) I can’t tell exactly what it says, but it’s clearly a flirty message. He sent another:
Him- LOL wrong chat!
Me- Work, Pleasure, or Other chat?
Him- (Face palm emoji) Pleasure
Me: Ha no worries. I mean you helped me dress for my sex party date later tonight … I’m fine knowing you are having maybe a nice date too
Him- This poly thing is confusing.You won’t believe how much I blushed when I sent you that message by accident.
Me- My mom used to tell me to never talk about other boys to the boys I liked. Not even about ex-relationships because god forbid a man knows you had other relationships before let alone be in another one now!!
Me- Also — I translated it. That’s why I asked… what kind of text it was- it sounded flirty even with awful google translate
Him- Well, essentially, Andi might be back tomorrow evening. And she wanted to see me.
Him- Thanks (blushing face emoji)
Me- Plus- you know about my dates and you’re always happy for me. But I do know what you mean because sometimes I don’t even want to tell you because “that’s not what you’re supposed to do”
Him- Stupid Social Norms
Me- Right. Also, I find it more difficult to tell you about dates that might mean something more than random sex dates. Telling you about random sex or like the sex party are easier than saying- I met someone who I feel like I can really care about.
Him- I understand. But you can tell me honestly anything. That’s all part of who you are. 😘
Me- And you can tell me when you see Andi or new people if you meet them. Before I ask about it too… 😘
Me- We are all just figuring it out together. 😍
(I have a confession, we all have fake names here. Too many chances one of my corporate clients will Google me and well… Poly and sex stories don’t always hold up well with the corporate set… So, in real life… Benjamin and Roland have the SAME NAME! You can see THAT being a recipe for disaster… LOL)
Texting the wrong person- Again- Different partners
Me- Sends screen shot of a direct message from my JoyClub.de account- (from a couple Benjamin and I could potentially meet)- to Roland! Only about a week after we met!
Me- Oops! Did I tell you my boyfriend and you share the same name? (EEK!)
Roland- Ha-ha, yes, you did. I didn’t make the connection and was trying to make sense of the screen cap.
Roland- Looks like you guys are planning some fun! Cool.