…miting myself, and trying to force someone to meet so many expectations and needs all on their own. This is not a phase. It’s not a choice I made, it is something that was inside of me all along. I am open. I am free, full of love. I am polyamorous.
This is how I feel too. The freedom. I recently had a frustrating conversation with a close friend about one of my partners. It is a very non-traditional relationship that in the surface seems to be mostly sexual but there is such a deep connection within that, that even though our lives are completely changing, I still value staying connected to him in whatever manner we work out. She couldn’t see why I would want to do that, since it appears that our relationship is just sex and we won’t be doing that anymore really. (He is also the man I call a «partner» even though that word probably doesn’t to most people describe our relationship.) But to me- honoring the deep connection we have had for the past 2.5 years has real value and I want those brief texts and back and forth notes to continue even if due to distance and life changed our relationship is shifting and moving in a different direction. I love that polyamory allows is the freedom to define our partnership in whatever way we choose even if it seems confusing on the outside.