Thankfully I feel like I’ve gotten past some of the “you owe me XYZ” but it can still be distracting when one of those things is a “basic need”

My love languages are quality time and words of affirmation… so as long as I am in communication regularly I can usually manage being ok without time. But it’s especially difficult for me when both are lacking. Thankfully that doesn’t happen much. But I need at least one of those needs (time or words) to be met if I am going to be as confident as possible in a relationship.