So true. I don’t have a primary, but my boyfriend is married. Some of my friends who “got it” no longer “got it” when they heard he was married. I am very good friends now with his wife too.
Fortunately, all of my friends really do try to understand and most of them get that I have real feelings for these people in my life!
I hope you can find people who get you and how you choose to live your life! Is there a poly meetup group or anything there?