So real! It is so smart of you to reaize this and live your own reality and make it work for you. How freeing! I was married to man who could not let me go to bed at a different time from him, could not let me get up in the middle of the night to sleep on the couch, (he snored, LOUDLY, and I am a very light sleeper), God Forbid I woke up in the night because I couldn’t sleep and went to watch TV! That was abandonment. Clearly you two have a strong mutual trust, understanding, and respect! YAY YOU!