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Personal Relationship Growth- Autonomy
Recently, I had a bit of a revelation about me and autonomy. Some things that seem normal and healthy to most people are not always easy to recognize or do for those of us who have learned dysfunctional relationship styles throughout their lives. Happily, I noticed one area I feel I have improved in this morning!
Autonomy/Non-Attachment
If you read my work about being Solo-Poly, you know that my autonomy is very important to me. But the way I have been experiencing autonomy has been about the big picture. Living alone. Traveling. Making my own decisions. Not sharing my money with anyone, etc.
But meeting and very strongly connecting with DJDM here in Medellin means that I am spending a lot of actual time with him. Like, A LOT of time. I am used to living alone and it’s been a long time since I had a partner who had time like this to spend with me. I love it. It’s fun (it’s also VERY sexy) but it’s been interesting to make the adjustment.
So the revelation… Doing things together, apart.
He got up to go to work early, showered and went out to make himself some breakfast. I also woke up and was checking my messages etc. (Isn’t that what you do when you wake up?) I could hear him out in the kitchen making breakfast doing his thing. I made the conscious decision to…
