My Sexual Liberation Doesn’t Belong to You

The other day one of my favorite sex positive, polyamorous, feminist, smart, and feisty Medium authors, Elle Beau linked me to a comment thread. It was a primarily political article, but the comments had taken quite an interesting turn. She linked to my profile and suggested to the original poster that he read some of my writings about being in happy healthy polyamorous relationships. Relationships that are about more than just sex; relationships that involve heart and soul as well. I hope he reads a few and maybe gets a better fuller view about what polyamory can mean to people. (Check out my writings on Medium Here.)

But as I was reading through the comments (there are a lot and they are long and well thought out on both sides) I happened to read a statement that really struck a chord with me.

I think there is a great correlation between what I view as the promotion of the sexualisation of popular culture, i.e. “sexual liberation” as perhaps reflected in what one of the stars of Bohemian Rhapsody described as “sexual freedom” and such a bad attitude to women. If our culture is encouraging us to view one another as sexual objects and our sexuality as a fluid commodity and “our choice”, yet we still view this behaviour as “wrong”, it seems we have a terminal case of moral schizophrenia.