Lord! Back in 1990 I had the biggest crush on a guy who totally refused to entertain the thought of hanging out with me, because he knew I was a virgin (went to a strict religious school) and he was terrified I would get all emotional and attached. Even though- even all the way back then, I knew I was capable of having sex without needing him to be "my man"... he was to trying to hear it! Based on my own similar experiences to yours, I can see where you came to this conclusion!