… The way he cares for others and his attention to details impress me. He’s thoughtful and attentive. His sexual stamina is similar to mine, often not the case for men closer in age. He makes me feel young and free. I can be silly. I’m more comfortable with my body as it is and ask…
Kerry McAvoy, PhD
I have found the closer I get to 50 the closer my partner's ages get to 40- (usually less than.) This is one of BIG the reasons that works for me. I have my age range in the dating apps stop at about 2 years younger than me... men my age just don't have the drive, excitement, curiosity, or ability to match my sexual desires, drive, and needs. (In my exprience- I'm sure it's not the same for everyone... )
The younger men I date tell me that they like us "older women" because we are more confident, have less stress about our bodies and sex, we see the world with a bigger lens and tend to sweat the small stuff less... I know that it def works for me.
My current nesting partner is 8 years younger than me, and I just met a new guy who is 10... (We're polyamorous... it's all good!) And I wouldn't have it any other way, though I do have some of the same worries as you about growing older while these men are so much younger (and men tend to be "allowed" to grow old and we're put down for it... We'll see!) Anyway- thanks for this post!