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“I Couldn’t Do That!” and Other Things People Say, Part III
A few weeks ago, I was comfortably ensconced on the couch at a friend’s house, casually chatting, and drinking a nice rosé (probably the last one of the season.) I don’t even remember what aspect of my poly life we were talking about, but I am sure it was something I didn’t think would trigger a reaction. And then…
“Oh no! I couldn’t do that! I am too jealous!” She said.
I replied with my standard response, “Ok. I know it’s not for everyone.”
“But really? Doesn’t it make you crazy? How can you share him like that?”
“No, it really doesn’t make me crazy at all.”
The truth is, I have never been a very jealous person. Perhaps that’s what makes this poly life such a good fit. I can’t say for sure. I once asked my best friend, “Can you think of any time in our past where I was jealous in a relationship?” Neither of us could think of a time. So, there is that. But that doesn’t mean I don’t “feel some kind of way” sometimes. When I do, I usually try to take the time to think about what’s really going on in my mind and work my way outward.
One of my former partners didn’t have any other partners when I met him, but eventually he met someone with whom he really connected. I was genuinely pleased for him. I knew there were…
