A Ghost Story

Otherwise known as “Dating in the 21st Century”

E. L. Byrne


Photo with permission — Digital_lala

I put my phone down, shaking my head. This was at least the 4,765th time I had checked to see if there was a happy-making little red dot with a number in it on my WhatsApp. Maybe I had just missed the telltale vibration, or annoying little dinging sound? I was still hoping he had sent a message. He hadn’t. It’s been four days. I think I can safely say I’ve been “ghosted.”

The Urban Dictionary defines ghost as, “Avoiding someone until they get the picture and stop contacting you.” I got the picture with the radio silence on day two, or rather my pride and my personal rules about chasing vs. being chased got the picture after day two. But my heart, (my ego?), and the places he so sweetly touched me? They want more. They are all still waiting to “get the picture.”

It started innocently enough. A coffee date turned beer date, at a tiny hole in the wall Czechoslovakian bar, on a quiet back street in Pankow, a northern neighborhood in Berlin. Hours of drinking beer, talking, laughing, light touches, and flirting, culminating in the most romantic of kisses. He held my hand and walked me to the U-Bahn station where we stood below ground, ignoring the smells and stares of other passengers. Shoulders leaning against the wall, facing each other, holding hands, feeling the wind pushing through the tunnel, and the train flying past, as he kissed me goodbye. When it came to a stop, and I turned to rush to get on, our hands were still reaching out to continue our touch, this magical connection, an attempt to hold onto that space together. Finally, we had to be content with watching through the window, little hand waves, and secret smiles forming on our lips.

The next few days were a flurry of texts, quick connections, flirty thoughts, and anticipation.

Me; Hey sexy, hope your day is great.

Toby: Saw this great book today, the title was ‘Laughing at Life’ it made me think of you!”

Me: I can’t wait to see your smile again!

Toby: Your smile is even more beautiful!

There was no “avoiding someone…” there was leaning in and putting ourselves out there. There were huge smiles whenever my phone buzzed, short giggles escaping my lips at the…



E. L. Byrne

World traveler, memoir writer, lover of all things relationship- ENM www.elbyrnewriter.com Twitter: @ELByrne1 https://medium.com/@elbyrnew