Do we need to sleep in the same bed to have a good relationship? — The idea of Separate But Together is one of my most beloved relationship concepts, yet the one that often feels the furthest from being a reality. Our culture’s idea of relationships doesn’t leave much room (literally) for the idea that two people can love each and be together but not…

Having Grace With Ourselves — I was talking to a new friend last night. We sat in a cool Berlin cafe/bar called Kapitalist. The facade is torn up stucco, and there is no sign marking this was it. There are tables outside, and the bar is lovely, but that is where they stopped with “decorating.”…

We all know what a serial monogamist is… — The question popped into my head recently: I am a “Serial Polyamorist?” Hmmm. We all know what a serial monogamist is… What Does “Serial Monogamy” Mean?- Serial monogamy is a relationship style that involves having a series of monogamous (often long-term) relationships, rather than taking solo breaks or casually dating…

How my polyam life has changed recently — Well, it’s a little later than I’d like it to be and not as close to the end of the quarter as I usually like to make these updates. But I think having a total knee replacement surgery (and a few other things you will see in the notes) will…

The short answer is yes. — The other day I was re-introduced to a phrase I had heard and identified with before but hadn’t really thought much about in the time since — megasexual. For some reason, this time it resonated with me more than the last time, and I had some thoughts. …

Why are sex and polyamory so often equated with being promiscuous? — I was texting with a potential date on Tinder today. He was flirting with me and I was enjoying the casual banter. Then he asked me to meet up for some sexy times. …

Being non-monogamous means doing deeper work within myself and with others to function well in relationships — As I approach 50 years on this earth, I realize how much my relationship philosophies have changed. In theory, the memoir I am writing (in theory- if I ever worked on it more) is about how I became the woman I am today from my traditional evangelical roots. It’s definitely…

I like to think I am all these things, but am I? — If you are on dating apps like Tinder or OkCupid, or more sex-focused apps like Feeld, you might see in some profiles the letters GGG. GGG stands for Good, Giving, and Game. This is a term generally attributed to the popular sex and relationship podcaster and columnist- Dan Savage. In…

It’s not just about condoms anymore! Since today is D in the AtoZ Blog Challenge, I thought what better topic for a sex-positive blogger to write about than dildos. I don’t often write about sex in any specific ways on this blog. I usually save that for the www.lustitude.com blog…