Being non-monogamous means doing deeper work within myself and with others to function well in relationships — As I approach 50 years on this earth, I realize how much my relationship philosophies have changed. In theory, the memoir I am writing (in theory- if I ever worked on it more) is about how I became the woman I am today from my traditional evangelical roots. It’s definitely…

I like to think I am all these things, but am I? — If you are on dating apps like Tinder or OkCupid, or more sex-focused apps like Feeld, you might see in some profiles the letters GGG. GGG stands for Good, Giving, and Game. This is a term generally attributed to the popular sex and relationship podcaster and columnist- Dan Savage. In…

It’s not just about condoms anymore! Since today is D in the AtoZ Blog Challenge, I thought what better topic for a sex-positive blogger to write about than dildos. I don’t often write about sex in any specific ways on this blog. I usually save that for the www.lustitude.com blog…

Does the medical community recognize we’re out here having sex over 50? — I have often said I think it’s important for us to talk about sex more, make it a more normal topic of general conversation instead of hiding talk of it behind closed doors and making people ashamed to discuss it. I feel the same way about getting older. I will…

5 things you should know — My journey to non-monogamy, specifically polyamory, as a relationship orientation and lifestyle has been one of the most rewarding of the many I have undertaken. I believe I have learned more about myself, who I truly am, than ever. I have developed lifelong skills that help me navigate complex relationship…

A recap of my polycule changes — So, finally I feel like my life is “sufficiently polyamorous” again to post regular quarterly polycule updates. Don’t get me wrong, I am always “sufficiently polyamorous” partnered or not, (I don’t believe I have to be in more than one romantic relationship to be polyamorous), but currently my life and…

Do we miss anything in the pursuit? — Earlier this month I read a piece on orgasms by the amazing Girl on the Net (GOTN) (If you haven’t read her blog it is a pure gold mine of sex and relationship content. Some of my erotica has been featured as audio porn on her site! I highly recommend…

Or Not? Too often in our culture, we are made to believe that we are not enough. Not thin enough, not smart enough, not rich enough… just not enough. We go through our lives always trying to BE more. Be cuter, be more popular, be special. What a mess that…

Maybe. It could be what we’re doing — Last summer, my partner Dex and I broke up. You can read more about that here. But in case you don’t want to read all that, here’s a brief rundown. We limped on together while I was away in Berlin, acting like we were just friends, but pretty much texting…