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5 Dating Mistakes You Don’t Know You’re Making
Because dating is more complicated than you think
1- Not treating the process like a job
Finding someone you connect with on a deeper level is no accident. It takes work and focus. Sure you can grab a glass of wine or a nice rich whisky and sit on the porch Friday night and do some casual swiping when you’re bored, but that isn’t going to get you very many dates. It might occupy some time though and if that’s what you really want… carry on!
Dating is kind of like sales, you need to fill the funnel full of opportunities in order for even a few gems to pop out the bottom. I moved back to the US a few weeks ago and I’ve spent some concentrated time on Tinder. (I also use other apps but Tinder is the one more people are using here.) I’ve chatted with quite a few guys; real, detailed conversations, not just “Hey”- “Hey”… yet, I have only had two dates. I’ve had three dates cancel on the day of or just before too, and barely heard from those guys again, or if I do hear from them, it’s been haphazard.
If you’re really serious about meeting someone in person and possibly taking things to the next level, you need to make a focused effort, work the apps. It’s helpful to be chatting to a couple of those potentials at the same time because…
